That’s the gist of this web page: sex and drugs. And how those things affect each other and relationships.
First, I’m going to start off unapologetically with an over-simplification: Drugs make sex better.
Some of the best sex we have had has been under the influences of drugs (including alcohol). Not all, of course, but we have enough of a sample size that I’m comfortable with the declaration.
It’s not just us. The use of drugs to enhance sex is fairly prevalent, according to a study released earlier this year, with alcohol, marijuana, and MDMA topping the list.
But Why?
Drugs make me horny. I have yet to find a substance that didn’t make me want to fuck—dose dependent. It’s hard to concentrate enough on fucking to actually do it while tripping on LSD. However, that doesn’t mean the urges don’t come and go frequently or that the images in my head aren’t sensual, erotic, or downright pornographic in nature. On lower doses of LSD or shrooms—doses that don’t elicit a full psychedelic experience but still alter the perception of the physical realm—or a normal dose of 2C-B, sex is possible and amazing.
Just a few puffs of weed on a vape pen, and I’m much more in the mood to fuck.
One of the early indications that MDMA is starting to hit me is I start to get an erection.
Hell, my DMT experiences have shown me oddly sexual imagery. Even though I’m not aroused or, truly, even aware of my body enough to have sex, usually I’m in the mood during the come down.
Erin doesn’t have quite the same reactions to these things. It’s difficult for her to feel sexual on any psychedelic, and MDMA is more sensual and euphoric than arousing (though all the petting and sexy conversation can easily lead to arousal).
But she still agrees that sex is better on drugs.
Lower Inhibitions
One commonality between drugs is a lowering of inhibitions and a relaxation of shame or guilt. Just a little bit of alcohol can unleash pent up desires. Obviously I’m going to enjoy sex more if I feel free to fuck the way I want to fuck. I’m also going to enjoy it if Erin is likewise feeling free and passionate.
The conversation about inhibitions, shame, and guilt around sex (not even the really kinky stuff either!) is a longer conversation for another time. Several conversations.
Increase Physical Pleasure
Many drugs alter physical sensation. MDMA and other phenethylamine can enhance physical touch. A simple back rub feels incredible, so obviously something as wonderful as sex is heightened immensely. Ecstasy is an apt name. GHB and marijuana are similar, but to a lesser degree.
Psychedelics also enhance sensations, but I find it to be a different experience than MDMA offers. As I said before, sex while in a peek psychedelic experience can be difficult simply because it can be hard to stay focused. Terence McKenna described sex on psychedelics as the Mount Everest of the experience. I understand why: It would be a challenging undertaking that would lift one to the heavens.
Rather than the touch feeling better, it’s more like one spot on the body becomes the entire focus of my awareness. To be more specific, one time when I received a blow job while tripping, the sensation on my cock was the entirety of my world. I wasn’t aware of my body lying on the bed or my hand touching the sheets. It’s as though the only sensation that existed was the lips and tongue on my dick. Which was freaking amazing.
Enhance Emotional Connection
There is an emotionally opening element to many drugs, even the “light” stuff like alcohol and marijuana. A simple buzz can create a feeling of greater friendship and commradery. MDMA (by far the winner in this realm from our experiences) is an empathogen or entactogen, which means it creates feelings of oneness, empathy, and sympathy. Basically, when rolling on MDMA, everyone is your best friend. So when you are rolling on MDMA alone with your significant other, the outpouring of love and connection and oneness is amplified to incredible heights.
And that’s my conclusion: drugs lower inhibitions, increase physical pleasure, and enhance emotional connections during sex. In other words, if you are in a committed relationship with a strong foundation of love and trust, drugs make sex awesome!
In future posts, we’ll touch on how those very aspects of drugs can be awful if you aren’t in a committed relationship with a strong foundation of love and trust.